God knows you’re Obsessive & Compulsive

We're not always good at negotiating with ourselves
We’re not so good at negotiating with ourselves

You’re probably more obsessive and compulsive than you think. In the counseling room, most of my care-seekers are dealing with the fallout from destruction that they pursued without knowing it. There is a pathology that leads us to the majority of our hurts, hang-ups and habits. Why do we let our minds take our hands and feet to places that can obviously destroy us? It is a 4-step process that you can identify, and with some work you can break that painful cycle.

The Cycle of Obsession & Compulsion
Obsession & Compulsion – Natural as Boy Meets Girl

You can break down the pathology of obsessive-compulsive-destruction into four stages: (1) attention, (2) attraction, (3) romance and (4) action. In the Attention Stage, a potentially attractive trigger stimulates our senses in some way. Once we understand the trigger stimulus, we begin calculate if the stimulus is positive or negative, and if it is positive then the trigger becomes the object of the Attraction Stage. In the Romance Stage, we begin calculating the short-term benefit of the trigger, while at the same time divorcing ourselves from the trigger’s potential negatives. After we have allowed sufficient romance to be focused on the trigger, we enter the point of no return in the Action Stage. Each of these stages leads to the next, and we have the opportunity to divert ourselves from the impending destruction with some education and practice.

bb_addiction_feat_freeOne of the best examples available for the understanding obsessive and compulsive thinking and actions is addiction. Heredity related to alcohol addiction has been studied in depth. Because of how genetically predisposed alcohol addicts are to succumbing to obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors, it is an excellent example to use for the topic of this article. There is overwhelming evidence as to the genetic factors associated with addiction. In The American Psychiatric Publishing Textbook of Substance Abuse Treatment, Marc Galanter, et.al., it states that between 50-60 % of the risk of alcohol dependence is genetic. Still, the genetic addict must add the activating ingredient, alcohol, before the disorder can turn destructive.

genetics-and-addiction-rateLet’s look at a scenario that I often see, and in recovery ministry we spend a great deal of time preparing for. By the time an alcohol dependant (AD) contacts our ministry, they have usually suffered devastating consequences and they are aware that their disorder is destructive. In order to be successful in arresting alcohol addiction, the addict has to desire and accept training and accountability partnership from fellow support group members. The “framework” of recovery is a 12-step program designed to

Romance turns to Action
Romance turns to Action

chart a course out of destruction and build a lifestyle that detects and arrests the obsessive and compulsive behaviors. The “network” of recovery is the group of fellow AD’s who team up to help keep or get another member back on track.

Imagine you were following an AD with a video camera. Here are the obsessive and compulsive steps you would see:

  1. The Attention Stage for alcohol can be the picture of alcohol on a delivery truck or the smell of alcohol coming from a bar in a restaurant. Here, the AD is coached to stay aware of “attraction thoughts”, and preferably avoid places where people may be drinking alcohol.
  2. If the AD has gotten to the Attraction Stage, they have become distracted by the stimulus and their attention will leave conversation. At this time they may have autonomic responses of mouth-watering or inviting the odor of alcohol.
  3. At the Romance Stage, the AD is fully contemplating what it would taste and feel like to have a drink. The AD begins to rationalize using and has begun a cycle of coping and concealing behaviors to drink and not get caught.
  4. Finally, the AD enters the Action Stage – orders and consumes the drink, and any hope of arresting the behavior is out of reach until sobriety is restored.

Now, if we turn the video camera back toward ourselves, we may see startling similarities between the pattern exhibited by the AD, and you or I. Different destructive behaviors have different time tables, but they have remarkably similar pathology. Imagine we’re on a diet.

  1. In the Attention Stage, we find it better to shop when we’re not hungry, so we’re less likely to make poor buying choices. With proper experience or coaching, we can learn to avoid the cookie isle and the bakery and ice cream sections.
  2. Inevitably, the store has placed a display of “on sale” sweets to the right of the door where almost everyone enters. Sweets have caught our attention, and we enter the Attraction Stage. We may smell or see attractive bakery or deli smells that capture our attention, and begin to salivate and our stomachs to growl.
  3. In the Romance Stage, we cave to the idea of avoiding the high-calorie comfort food sections, and begin to ignore the shopping list. We change menus in our heads and talk ourselves into binge dieting or exercise that we’ll do to offset a binge.
  4. In the Action Stage, we’ve picked up the cake, cookies or ice cream and put it into the cart. We may have actually forgotten important items we went to the store for. Until we’ve eaten the high calorie food, we have little chance of avoiding it.

The pattern may be very uncomfortable to consider, and even painful to admit. Everyone has their weakness. Maybe it is impulsive spending, pornography, the need for attention, or another behavior we obsess and then act out on compulsively. Humans are born broken, and it is important for the Christian to know that our brokenness isn’t standing in between us and God. God knows you’re obsessive and compulsive. Even the Apostle Paul struggled like us:

Romans 7:21-25 (NLT)
“I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. I love God’s law with all my heart. But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.”

We can’t just look at the struggle without realizing that last part about being a slave to sin will be a constant battle while we are human beings. But God gives us a lot of help, and gives us restoration when we fall short in the battle. We have the Holy Spirit in us and as close as our own breath:

Romans 8:26-28 (NLT)
And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.

If we really want to understand how much God knows we are obsessive and compulsive, we should look at how He structured the Ten Commandments.


Commandments 1 through 4 set our priorities correctly from the top. The first sin of Adam and Eve was about pridefully considering ourselves as equal to God. God is God and we are not. He is sovereign and He is in control. If we could keep these in mind, the rest of it would never even attract our attention, and put us in the Attention Stage. But in our brokenness we do let evil capture our attention.

Then we see 5 through 9, once we’ve let evil capture our attention, we begin the Attraction Stage. Here, God tells us all of the evil things we might be attracted to, and sets them off in grand fashion to arrest the behavior in the Attraction Stage. But, we are also creative in our evil. So He adds another at the end.

Wanting the thing we shouldn't have
Wanting the thing we shouldn’t have

The 10th Commandment is all about coveting; about wanting what we should have. If we can keep our obsessive thoughts arrested in the Attention and Attraction Stages, we can keep ourselves out of so much destructiveness we bring upon ourselves. God knows you’re obsessive and compulsive.

So am I.

For a broad variety of needs
For a broad variety of needs

I want to recommend that if you feel like you have any destructive obsession or compulsion, there is help available.  Celebrate Recovery is a 12-step program that is Christ-centered and serves people with a broad spectrum of hurts, hang-ups and habits.  Nationally, about 1/3 of CR attendees are there for chemical dependency.  There are also many people there for co-dependency, compulsive eating, pornography addiction, control fixation, abuse from others and self abuse, and many more needs.  You can find a group at celebraterecovery.com

One final note: I am a pastoral counselor, so I want to be clear I am not writing about the OCD of psychology. You can tell by the context of the article that it is about applying biblical faith to our life today. If you feel like you may have any psychological disorder, please seek out a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC).